Breakup Should Not Break You

What is Love and why do we want to fall in Love? Once one said that, falling in Love was like floating in the skies like clouds, a feeling of freedom, hope for happiness and having colorful lenses when looking at the world.

After a break up specially after so much investment of your time and resources you are left with a vulnerable depressed heart and your colorful lenses are broken. There is no quick fix to cure that broken heart other than time. Time is the key to heal. But how to use this time wisely picking up the pieces one by one and not loosing hope that true love is there waiting for you to find? True Love starts with yourself. You become that safe harbor before inviting someone else in.

** Love Yourself Like you Loved Thy Ex

1- Elevate self esteem-its time for you to explore your assessment of yourself.

2-Work to develop a positive self image- how do you see yourself when you are alone?

3-Actively improve self esteem by practicing positive self talk and choosing active activities that will help to fight the blues. These practices will improve your energy and physical health.

4- Establish self worth by identifying your distorted expectations of the world and approval from others in order to feel good about yourself. Time to look at yourself in the eyes and praise yourself for being strong, smart, loving, fun and so many other attributes that you have yet to find about yourself.

5-Nurture your mental health and physical health by surrounding yourself with good friends that will lift you up and support you to improve physical health and implement positive habits on daily basis.

Find a therapist to help you explore past rejection experiences that have impacted your feeling about yourself and support you on taking steps toward healing.

6-Embrace who you are and what you want. Stop trying to fit in someone else's agenda. Discover your dreams, work toward pursuing them and along your journey there will be someone that shares similar dreams.

7-Stop dwelling in the past- It’s time to close that book and start a new one. Give yourself some time to express your emotions about your ex and then make a commitment to yourself that once you decide to open a new chapter there will be no more talking about your ex. His/Hers name will no longer be part of your vocabulary until you can revisit that without triggering strong feelings.

8-Explore new Hobbies or old ones that you put aside because your ex was not supportive of you during the time you were together and finish it. That will bring you a sense of accomplishment and pride which no one will ever be able to take them from you.

9-Start you day with a grateful heart because you have so much to be thankful for.

10-Engage in meditation and regular exercises. Your mind and body are interconnected and they carry your soul; who you truly are. You deserve to be Loved by you. ~Vanessa Waldron